A tired and outdated concept
By Katie Czenczek, Staff writer
Sex is weird. Or, at least, the way people go about understanding sex is weird. Itâs the thing that everyone talks about, yet simultaneously fears at the same time. In other words, sex is like a terrible car crash; weâre horrified, but canât seem to look away. I think this is especially the case when it comes to defining what sex is and whoâs allowed to do it.
The concept of virginity acts as a means for regulating who has had sex and who hasnât. If, before marriage, you end up shagging your co-worker at a Christmas party, depending on what circle youâre in, youâll either appear to be a hero or immoral. There really is no in between, and I believe that is a huge problem. Before getting started, I understand and respect that many people value their virginity and that it is spiritually meaningful for them. Thatâs great, and you do you, but I personally do not think it exists, nor that it should be imposed on others.
If virginity was a real concept, I would have lost mine to a scalpel and a nice gynecologist at 14. Born with an imperforate hymen, I wouldnât have been able to get a tampon up there, let alone a finger, ping-pong ball, dildo, carrot, penis, tentacleâwhatever else people have tried to shove up their bits. It honestly would have worked better than any chastity belt on the market due to what was essentially a flexible brick wall safeguarding my purity. Either way, I am highly skeptical that I will be eternally damned for a 10-minute procedure that allowed myself to be able to swim while on my period like I wasnât beforeâbut hey, thatâs just me.
Though I think that it is bizarre that abstinence is still taught in some private schools, I think what is even more troubling is our societal obsession with losing our V-Cards. When you get to a certain age and you havenât lost your virginity, you begin to get those looks. Made up of a mix of both pity and judgement, people will be shocked when your own sexual journey hasnât lined up with theirs. Iâm here to set the record straight: You canât lose your virginity because it was never there to begin with and it has a different meaning for everyone. Whether or not youâve knocked boots with someone does not determine your worth.
Bottom lineâwhich also happens to be the bottom line of this articleâis that it shouldnât matter whether youâve had sex or not. I donât think it makes you a bad person if you have sex, nor does it make you a loser if you havenât.
